Picture this…it’s December 31st and you have your brand new planner for the new year. It has that intriguingly hopeful new planner smell. It is shiny and patiently awaiting you to fill it. You write down your goals, you even set deadlines for achieving them. You identify the trips you would like to take or a class to expand your knowledge. Oh, don’t forget that twenty pounds from two years ago you still need to lose. You go all out, color coding your calendar, and underlining the really important goals…twice! Then you set your planner on the bookcase, in plain sight never to be touched again, where your goals go off to die a slow soul-crushing death.
“Really think about your goals and how much energy you are truly putting into them. Your routine is costing you.”
If you have never experienced this then I applaud you while secretly hating you. However, if you are like me you have found yourself in a cycle. You have brilliant ideas and career changing goals. Yet time and time again you find yourself coming up short. Perhaps you started strong or maybe you never really started. Either way by December you are reflecting on many things that went unaccomplished. The feelings of failure and dissatisfaction are palpable. Those feelings open the door to self-doubt, negative self-talk and questions about your purpose.
In an effort to stop this cycle I have decided to forego my usual list of resolutions. Instead, I have identified my very own word of the year…consistency. This year I will practice the art of consistency. The reality is I have not achieved my goals because I have not consistently devoted time to them. For me, practicing the art of consistency will look a little something like this:
- Consistently dedicating time to professional goals
- Find an hour, 3-4 days a week that is solely dedicated to my “side hustles.”
- Consistently forgiving myself
- As a mother, wife and social worker I am often faced with having tough conversations and making even harder decisions. I do not always say or do the right thing…why you ask…because I am HUMAN. I will forgive myself for my mistakes and consistently speak positivity into my own life.
- Consistently be kind to myself and others
- We are living in highly volatile times. The news is stressful, people talking about the news is stressful and some people are just stressful in general. I simply don’t want to be one of those people, therefore, I will choose kindness.
- Consistently ask, “Does this decision bring me closer to my goal or further away?”
- If the answer is yes then I will proceed. If the answer is no, I will not. Side note: This may or may not be about my frequent desire to go through the Dunkin Donut drive through while simultaneously wanting to look good in my clothes.